人生的“十大遗憾”和“十大胜利”

开始读(听)Robin Sharma: The Leader Who Had No Title。

里面有段故事,关于两个空墓穴里发现的两块刻字版,分别关于“十大遗憾”和“十大胜利”。关于人生阶段到最后时刻,对于存在的反思。参照来看也可以反推人生规划。摘录如下:

10 Human Regrets

  1. You reach your last day with the brilliant song that your life was meant to sing still silent within you.
  2. You reach your last day without ever having experienced the natural power that inhabits you to do great work and achieve great things.
  3. You reach your last day realising that you never inspired anyone else by the example you set.
  4. You reach your last day full of pain at the realisation that you never took any bold risks and so you never received any bright rewards.
  5. You reach your last day understanding that you missed the opportunity to catch a glimpse of mastery because you bought into the lie that you had to be resigned to mediocrity.
  6. You reach your last day and feel heartbroken that you never learned the skill of transforming adversity into victory and lead into gold.
  7. You reach your last day regretting that you forgot that work is about being radically helpful to others rather than being helpful only to yourself.
  8. You reach your last day with the awareness that you ended up living the life that society trained you to want versus leading the life you truly wanted to have.
  9. You reach your last day and awaken to the fact that you never realised your absolute best nor touched the special genius that you were built to become.
  10. You reach your last day and discover you could have been a leaders and left this world so much better than you found it. But you refused to accept this mission because you were just too scared. And wasted a life.

10 Human Victories

  1. You reach your end full of happiness and fulfillment on realising that you are all used up – having spent the fullness of your talents, the biggest of your resources, and best of your potential doing great work and leading a rare-air life.
  2. You reach your end knowing that you played at a standard of concentrated excellence and held yourself to the most impeccable standards in each thing you did.
  3. You reach your end in noisy celebration for having the boldness of spirit to have regularly confronted your largest fears and realised your highest visions.
  4. You reach your end and recognise that you became a person who build people up versus one who tore people down.
  5. You reach your end with the understanding that while your journey may have not always been a smooth one, whenever you got knocked down you instantly got back up – and at all times, never suffered from any loss optimism.
  6. You reach your end and bask in the staggering glory of your phenomenal achievements along with the rich value you have contributed to the lives of the people you were lucky to serve.
  7. You reach your end and adore the strong, ethical, inspirational and empathetic person you grew into.
  8. You reach your end and realise that you were a genuine innovator who blazed new trails instead of following old roads.
  9. You reach your end surrounded with teammates who call you a rock star, customers who say you’re a hero, and loved ones who call you a legend.
  10. You reach your end as a true Leader Without a Title, knowing that the great deeds you did will endure long after your death and that your life stands as a model of possibility.

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Soil by Irène P. Mathieu

一首有趣的诗,关于土壤。

Soil (Irène P. Mathieu, Twitter @gumbo_amando)

the way you say soil sounds
like soul, as in

after we walked through the woods
my feet were covered in soul

when it rains
the soul turns to mud

the soul is made of decomposed
plants and animal matter;

edaphology is the study of the soul's
influence on living things

while pedology is the study of how
soul is formed, its particular granularity.

you are rooted in a certain red patch
of soul that bled you and your

hundred cousins to life, a slow
warm river you call home.

maybe there is soul under everything,
even when we strike rock first.

the way you say soil you make
a poem out of every speck of dirt.

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刻意练习“一万小时定律”和博士生工作时间

成功的因素有四个:天赋,勤奋,机遇和出身。除了“勤奋”以外,其它的因素都是不可控的,所以在这个方面讨论的都是如何“勤奋”。“成功学”和“自控力”类的书籍经常提到的一个概念,刻意练习(deliberate practice)“一万小时定律”,最初是来自心理学的研究(下文):

Ericsson, K. A., Krampe, R. T., & Tesch-Römer, C. (1993). The role of deliberate practice in the acquisition of expert performance. Psychological review100(3), 363. PDF Download

这篇论文里研究了柏林音乐学院小提琴系的学生,发现最有才华的那批到人20岁时,总共的练习时间大概是10000小时。这个就是非学术圈里简称的“一万小时定律”。

开始带研究生以来,也经常被学生问到,每周工作时间是多少的问题。之前的解释有些模棱两可。现在觉得简单用这个原理来解释就足够来。简单来说,这个“定律”其实也从侧面解释了,如果要读博士,需要的年限和工作强度。得到博士学位,至少是在某个领域中有所建树。那么工作(刻意练习)的时间至少一万小时。假设博士年限是三年半,一年52周,那么每周至少要有效工作55小时,也就是

(一)每周工作五天,那么每天的有效工作时间至少是 10,000/3.5/52/5 = 10.99 小时

(二)每周工作六天,那么每天的有效工作时间至少是 10,000/3.5/52/6 = 9.16 小时

当然,上述的每天工作时间,是特指“刻意练习”时间,坐在办公桌前看手机的时间不能算。另外,假期什么的还没有算在计算里面,但这个至少有个很好的参考了。现在也很可以理解,为什么一个博士学位会花四年左右时间了。

回到成功的四个因素,经常可以看到身边不少天赋和出身都出众的人,最后也由于不够勤奋(主要是缺乏驱动力),最后也是了了。感觉非常可惜。

推荐阅读:

[1] Ericsson, K. A., Krampe, R. T., & Tesch-Römer, C. (1993). The role of deliberate practice in the acquisition of expert performance. Psychological review100(3), 363.

[2] Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success.

[3] Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World.

[4] Angela Duckworth, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. 

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2017年阅读清单

2017年计划读书50本,实际完成51本。阅读清单如下:

  • 李劼《木心论》广西师范大学出版社
  • 《木心记念专号》刘瑞林主编,广西师范大学出版社
  • 龙应台《银色仙人掌》广西师范大学出版社
  • 陈淑瑶《涂云记》印刻出版
  • 陈文茜《只剩一个角落的繁华》时报文化

  • Yuval Noah Harari, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind. [A]
  • Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy. [A]
  • 刘台平《八年抗战中的国共真相》风云时代
  • 蔡澜《三妙也》天地图书
  • 蔡澜《跟住蔡澜玩食买》天地图书

  • Christopher Hitchens, Hitch-22: A Memoir. [A]
  • 余光中《凭一张地图》国际文化出版社
  • Angela Duckworth, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. [A]
  • Parker Palmer, Arthur Zajonc, The Heart of Higher Education: A Call to Renewal. [A]
  • 蒋勋《从罗浮宫看世界美术》东华书局

  • Richard DeMillo, Revolution in Higher Education. [A]
  • Evan Osnos, Age of Ambition: Chasing Fortune, Truth and Faith in the New China. [A]
  • 黄爱琳《再穷也要去旅行》[K]
  • Louisa Lim, The People's Republic of Amnesia: Tiananmen Revisited. [A]
  • 蒋勋《汉字书法之美:舞动行草》远流出版

  • 约翰·赫斯特《你一定爱读的极简欧洲史》[K]
  • 张治《蜗耕集》六合丛书 [K]
  • 刀尔登《亦摇头亦点头》[K]
  • Amy Cuddy, Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. [A]
  • 莫言《天堂蒜苔之歌》[K]

  • Yuval Harari, Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow. [A]
  • Fyodor Dostoevsky, Notes from the Underground. [A]
  • Jeffrey Selingo, College (Unbound: The Future of Higher Education and What it Means for Students. [A]
  • Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell, Parenting form the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. [A]
  • 陈永发《中国共产革命七十年(上)》联经

  • Cal Newport, So Good They Can't Ignore You. [A]
  • Peter Vishton, Scientific Secrets for Raising Kids Who Thrive. [A]
  • 白先勇《寂寞的十七岁》广西师范大学出版社
  • Michael Bunting, The Mindful Leader: 7 Practices for Transforming Your Leadership, Your Organisation and Your Life. [A]
  • Jane Goodall, Reason for Hope. [A]

  • Alison Gopnik, The Gardener and The Carpenter. [A]
  • 黄永玉《十二个十二月》湖南美术出版社
  • 刀尔登《中国好人》[K]
  • 陈永发《中国共产革命七十年(下)》联经
  • 木心《哥伦比亚的倒影》广西师范大学出版社

  • 苏炜《天涯晚笛:听张充和讲故事》广西师范大学出版社
  • Simon Sinek, Leaders Eat Last: Why some teams pull together and others don't. [A]
  • 舒国治《理想的下午:关于旅行也关于晃荡》广西师范大学出版社
  • 刀尔登《旧山河》[K]
  • 王安忆《逃之夭夭》[K]

  • 林夕《原来你非不快乐》[K]
  • 木心《素履之往》广西师范大学出版社
  • 向恺染《江湖异人传》[K]
  • Cal Newport, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World. [A]
  • 王统照《欧游散记》[K]

  • 王定国《戴美乐小姐的婚礼》印刻文学

[A] 表示是使用Audible听的有声书。
[K] 表示 Kindle上读的书。

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春秋笔法

最近大学里工学院更换院长(Dean),副校长(Provost)写了长信介绍新院长。信件结尾,总结了现任院长的过去八年,如下:

...

There will be other opportunities to thank Archie for his contribution not just to the faculty but University leadership more generally. It is important to acknowledge here, however, the significance of that contribution in making and sustaining the faculty’s outstanding international reputation. He has worked with colleagues to build a wonderful foundation for the future and we wish him well for the future.

说了三点:(1)当了多年领导;(2)保住学院名声未丢;(3)架构了未来(过去做的事情就不提了)。明显的“春秋笔法”啊。一个大学/学院,有一个有眼光有执行力的领导还是很重要的。

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